“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.”

– Louise L. Hay

I believe I can’t sing ……. a belief that has been deep rooted in me since I was 10 years old. As we grow our belief systems develop and grow as we take on board what parents, teachers, elders, siblings and whoever we interact with say to us and about us. These statements and interactions form who we grow into and help us to create the image we have of ourselves. This image that we have created can either help or hinder our potential and can form the limiting beliefs by which we lead our lives and stop us from being who we are meant to be.

Why I stopped singing

How did this belief become so deep set within me? – I was at school and we were having a music lesson a whole class of 10 year old girls standing next to the piano singing. The teacher a very fierce Nun stopped the pianist and fixed me with her steely gaze and told me to go the back of the class as I couldn’t sing and was tone deaf. My humiliation and shame still sits with me today when I think of this. At every music lesson from that day I was sent to the back of the class. So the limiting belief of I can’t sing was born within me – yes I have rebelled from time to time and burst into song but generally when I am on my own and there is no danger of anyone hearing me.

What has this stopped me from doing? It has stopped me from the joy and happiness that singing can bring, even just around the house and to my children and grandchildren. My husband has often commented that he doesn’t hear me sing except very quietly under my breath if he sneaks up on me. My fear of being ridiculed for sounding horrible has been with me since I was 10, a whole lifetime. This also got me thinking about some of my other limiting beliefs some of which I touched on it my last blog and why I believe these – mainly from what I was told as I grew up – I am not good enough, I am being judged ………….etc etc. I have now decided that all of these are just beliefs and they are not the truth about me and who I am – the real me.

 Time to Break Free

It is time to change and stop limiting my life. Its time to break out of my comfort zone and do things differently. Using positive statements and creating mental images of me doing and being all that I want to be will be the perfect start. I am a good singer – people like to hear me sing. I am a good writer – people enjoy reading my blogs. Who I am is enough and not only am I enough I am also essential to this world.

What are your limiting beliefs and how can you change them? One way is to press the delete button in your head when these beliefs surface and then decide to change them.
Anthony Robbins says – ‘ It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped’

Don’t let your belief system be who you believe you are or define what your life is meant to be – I can help you to change your limiting beliefs and  decide how your destiny is shaped using 4 easy steps. Contact me to book a free no obligation chat marion@yourlifesoulcoach.co.uk